"O man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the Molder, " Why did You make me like this?...Or does not the Potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use?" v. 20-21
I spent the last few days reading a sermon given by Charles Spurgeon in 1862 on "God's will and Man's will". If you have a chance to read it, I highly recommend it. He really puts light on the whole predestination arguement and talks about the providence of God clearly. www.spurgeon.org/sermons/0442.htm
Providence: God conceived as the power sustaining and guiding human destiny.
"If we could imagine that one human action had eluded the prescience or the predestination of God, we could suppose that the whole might have done so, and all things might drift to sea, anchorless, rudderless, a sport to every wave, the victim of tempest and hurricane. One leak in the ship of Providence would sink her, one hour in which Omnipotence relaxed its grasp and she would fall to atoms." CH Spurgeon. "He hath not let slip the reins of the great chariot of Providence, and think you that when Christ goeth forth in the chariot of His grace it is with steeds unguided, or driven only by chance, or by the fickle will of man?"
We have no problem believing that God gives us gifts...we do not give ourselves gifts. Likewise with His mercies.
It is much like an eternal circle. Draw a circle: God's will chooses us ------>We choose to love Him and believe -------->We receive salvation and eternity with Him ------->God's will chooses us -------> and so on.... It truly is a mysterious working and not something we should worry about.
"Soul, if thou art anxious after Christ, He is more anxious after thee. If thou hast only on spark of true desire after Him, that spark is a spark from the fire of His love to thee. He has drawn thee, or else thou wouldest never run after Him. If you are saying, 'Come to me, Jesus,' it is because He has come to you, though you do not know it. He has sought you as a lost sheep, and therefore you have sought Him like a returning prodigal. He has swept the house to find you, as the woman swept for the lost piece of money and now you seek Him as a lost child would seek a father's face. Let you willingness to come to Christ be a hopeful sign and symptom." Spurgeon...Wow!
I will leave you with this quote - also from Spurgeon. I love the picture it brings.
"The hen goes clucking about the farm-yard all day long; that is the general call of the gospel; but she sees a hawk up in the sky, and she gives a sharp cry for her little ones to come and hide under her wings; that is the special call; they come and are safe." When danger is lurking, where do you run?